1. Law of Relationships - (7). Ways to Attract Positive Relationships
1). Do not go around searching for good relationships; instead, study and prepare yourself.
If you meet the wrong people while living your life, you may end up in a pit of difficulties; if you meet the right ones, your life will blossom. If you're struggling because you wish to meet good people but things aren't going well, it simply means good relationships are not coming your way. But why aren’t good people coming to you? Certainly, nature has already brought good people into your life, but because you don’t know how to treat them correctly, those good relationships drift away. From that point on, good people become scarce by nature. This is because we haven’t studied the Law of Relationships, which is why even if precious someone comes into our lives, we fail to recognize them.
All the people currently around you, even if you do not fully feel their value and significance at this very moment, the fact remains that every single one of them has come into your life to become your genuine relationship. Young people, who around you, can become friends, seniors and juniors can form connections, and trusted relationships where one can share deep concerns can also still develop. But why do these deeper relationships not form? It’s because you don’t know who these people are, what it means to treat them correctly, and how to naturally get closer for mutual benefit. Without the skills to properly handle relationships, they cannot grow into deeper connections.
As you begin to study these things one by one, the things you didn’t know start to become clear, and as you begin to understand new things, it becomes fun and enjoyable. When you find joy and fun, you’ll unknowingly become more attractive, and confidence will arise. Then, naturally, people will start to approach you first. However, if you are struggling and yet attempt to meet higher-level relationships by force without being ready, you will not be able to treat these relationships correctly, leading to even worse circumstances than before you met them. This results in outcomes worse than doing nothing at all. Therefore, when times are tough, focus on studying and preparing yourself, and even when meeting people, try to connect with those who can help you improve yourself. Start by preparing yourself, and then all difficulties will melt away like snow.
When you build yourself up, your skills and competence improve, and you begin to appreciate the value and significance of the relationships around you. By treating the relationships you’ve been given correctly, better ones will come to you without the need for you to go searching. This society operates entirely on the Laws of Nature and the laws of science. It’s only because we haven’t studied these Laws of Nature that we remain unaware.
Everything in this universe operates on electromagnetic waves. As a human being, I also move rhythmically with these waves. If my electromagnetic waves are weak, I can be overwhelmed by stronger waves and end up struggling. However, if my electromagnetic waves strengthen, my influence expands. Then, my face looks brighter, and others perceive an unknown aura. The light on a person’s face changes according to the quality of their soul. As one’s soul expands and develops, their environment and circumstances also greatly improve.
Even, in places where many people gather and crowded, just by looking at someone, you can sense whether they are radiating a positive energy. Their face is bright, and an aura emanates from them. Conversely, those whose growth has stagnated appear dull and dark, with a flickering light that seems like it might go out. We are soul which is unmaterial energy and it acts as sensors, automatically detecting such those unmaterial energy. There’s no way someone like that would appear attractive. Instinctively, people tend to avoid them. Even if someone still approaches such a person, it’s 100% because they intend to take advantage of them. Because we haven’t studied these matters, we get taken advantage of, end up blaming others, and fall into a vicious cycle of increasingly difficult situations.
When you are struggling, although it is painful, accept that this situation as it is and do not force yourself to meet successful new people or try to make new friends just because you are lonely. Instead, start by looking inward, improving yourself, and treating your existing relationships well. Consider what aspects of yourself have prevented you from treating your relationships correctly, leading to your current loneliness or hardships. As you study and make efforts in these areas, nature will send good people your way again. When you meet good people, your power multiplies, and the path of life opens up. It doesn’t matter whether you were not taught this before; from now on, start studying to understand and approach things correctly. Don’t worry about whether you’ll meet good people or not. Once you address your own shortcomings, nature will take care of the rest. So, please focus on how to enhance yourself and develop your own abilities. If you meet someone you shouldn't, the problem isn't just meeting them, but how to part ways. If you separate incorrectly, that relationship will leave you with a deep scar before departing.
If you make just a little progress in your personal development, good people will naturally come to you, so there’s no need to worry. And if you study the Laws of Nature correctly, instead of just hoping to meet good people, think about how you have treated the people who came into your life and whether you contributed to their growth. If you haven’t helped someone, don’t expect them to help you. Nature operates with Laws that have zero margin for error. Consider whether you genuinely helped them, and if so, in what ways you did.
In this highly developed era, helping someone cannot simply be achieved by giving them material things. While sharing material goods can bring people closer with you, it does not truly help them. True help is measured by whether it contributes to their soul's growth. When you start helping others correctly, genuine relationships begin to form. Only when you’ve truly helped those around you will you form deep, lasting bonds; otherwise, it’s merely a temporary closeness due to similar environments or frequent interactions, which will fade as circumstances change over time.
2). There is no bad relationship; all connections are beneficial.
In this world, there are no bad or evil relationships; this concept simply does not exist in nature's perspective. If you’ve properly treated all the people who come into your life, they will all end up being beneficial to you in some way. However, if you fail to properly appreciate the gift of relationships given by nature, these people may bring you pain before leaving. When we are born into this world with a physical body, we come with a set of predetermined relationships, but there is no concept of a bad relationship in this set; every connection is inherently beneficial. The only reason bad things happen is because, not understanding the preciousness and gratitude of these relationships, we misjudge and treat them carelessly. Nature grants us the people around us as precious gifts. But because we do not know the ways of mutual coexistence, proper treatment, and how to benefit each other, we end up hurting each other and eventually parting ways.
To better understand, let’s explain from a completely opposite perspective. If the idea that there are no bad relationships does not resonate with you, and you find it difficult to grasp, then if you are still willin gto believe that bad relationships do exist, we can explain it from that point of view, too. The greatest form of a challenging, evil and bad relationship is the one between you and your children. We meet each other as karmic debtors. From past lives or from the natural flow, you and your child come together because the bond of karmic debt between you is strong. This is why the greatest adversaries often appear as blood relatives, such as parent and child. The greatest enemy is the relationship between parents and children. But see how, despite this, you come into each other’s lives with immense love. If you properly understand these principles and fulfill your duties towards each other correctly, the karmic debt can be reduced and ultimately resolved. This is why parents and children come together to share their lives for so long than any other relationship. Isn’t that a wonderful relationship? It all depends on how you handle it.
In such a favorable environment, if you mistakenly treat your child as your property, meddle excessively, or neglect them, the original karmic debt from your adversarial relationship will remain unresolved, leading to even deeper animosity in this life.
If someone aids in your life’s journey, they become someone you love deeply; if they obstruct your journey, they become your enemy. This is the principle of relationships. Whether the people nature brings to you bring you joy or pain depends on whether you handle them correctly. Thus, there is no room for blaming others. If someone causes you pain, it’s because, without you realizing, you've accumulated actions over time that have caused that person to behave this way towards you. However, because you believe you’ve lived rightly by your own standards, it becomes difficult to reflect on yourself and see where things went wrong.
Let go of the mindset that someone else is causing you pain. The truth is, 100% of your pain is caused by yourself. The key is to study and search for the reasons behind it and to work towards ensuring such things don’t happen again in the future. When you’re actively seeking solutions from within and making the effort, pain and difficulties will dissolve like mist. But if you continue to ignore looking within, blaming others and making excuses, convincing yourself that the world is bad while you’re good, you’ll find yourself increasingly entangled in cycles of negativity.
When you find yourself on a thorny path, it’s crucial to recognize it quickly and change course instead of stubbornly pushing deeper, convinced that you are right. If you keep digging, the path only becomes thornier, and you end up suffering even more. Never think that nature has given you a bad relationship. Nature only gives you the gifts you need. It’s just that when you apply a wrong perspective to these relationships and handle them poorly, everything starts to flow negatively. How you treat the relationships that come to you and how you blend with them determines whether your power and environment will improve tenfold. Thus, every relationship is a gift from nature.
Yet, because we are unaware of these principles, even within a household, husbands and wives end up hating each other. How can a family thrive if they harbor hatred for each other? How can a company succeed if employees resent each other and hold grudges against their boss? However, if each person studies and understands themselves, and if they start understanding each other while providing mutual support, this results in unity. By becoming one, these relationships transform into sources of immense lifelong strength and support. This is why understanding the Law of Relationships is the most fundamental Law of Nature.
Summary
Good relationships come naturally when we first work on improving ourselves. If we do not cherish and properly treat the connections around us, even good relationships will eventually drift away. Every relationship is a gift from nature, and when we focus on self-growth and genuinely helping those around us, good relationships will come to us effortlessly. All connections are beneficial; there are no inherently bad relationships. How we approach each relationship determines whether it becomes positive or negative. Ultimately, issues in relationships stem from our own inability to treat them correctly.